That’s also okay. You don’t need to focus on anything, especially not the rubble. Something good will eventually come and sit in the space, if you create it
"The real skill is not in holding onto stability, but in cultivating adaptability." Such a great line!!. The only thing in life that is constant is change, so we may as well learn to embrace it, love it, and live with it rather than against it. Loved reading this! Thank you for sharing!
I'm so glad this resonated with you! 💛 Change is inevitable, but life becomes much more interesting when we learn to dance with it instead of resisting. Appreciate you taking the time to share your thoughts!
Refreshing perspective. Do you think that instability is better achieved from a place of stability? I.e. we explore uncomfortable places by centering ourselves on what's comfortable first and then using that as a base to return to when we've done something uncomfortable? Either way growth and progress comes from discomfort!
Yes, I agree with you - in an ideal world, building from a stable place is the best because having that safety net can help us take on more risks. But the sad part is, we don’t always have that luxury, and most of the time we’re building that internal safety on the go.
What kind of place of stability are you thinking?
I believe that as long as it’s internal, it works - because that’s something we can control, even when everything goes wrong. If our stability depends on external things, it becomes fragile - because when those things shift, so does our sense of safety.
For example, my health has its ups and downs - it’s unstable sometimes. But I’ve built an inner stability where I trust that I’ll be okay no matter what, and I trust myself to handle the curveballs. That belief makes everything so much easier, even when things feel like they are going south.
Yes I was referring to internal stability. I also agree that we build that internal stability on the go but that's where I think more intentionality is needed. It is possible (very lofty) but possible that through being very intentional about building it that we are able to let external events affect us less and therefore more comfortable with exploring new things? Very much a work in progress for most of us but something to think about I suppose?
For me, external events will effect me forever, because that’s how I connect with the world — but the trust I have with myself will help me to ground myself when those connections change. Whether it’s job, friends, love
Although I can see the opposite being true for someone else. But in my head, not being affected by external things feels more like a protective shield to avoid not being affected at all.
The big bad wolf came to blow down my house again , I’m running out of materials to use to rebuild it
Don’t focus on the rubble, or rebuilding. Give yourself a lot of space
I’m finding it hard to focus on anything at the moment , just growing stubble
That’s also okay. You don’t need to focus on anything, especially not the rubble. Something good will eventually come and sit in the space, if you create it
oh I LOVE this
I'm so glad it resonated! What do you love about it? < 3
Your ability to adapt is something that really resonates with me!! Can't wait to see more from you <3
"The real skill is not in holding onto stability, but in cultivating adaptability." Such a great line!!. The only thing in life that is constant is change, so we may as well learn to embrace it, love it, and live with it rather than against it. Loved reading this! Thank you for sharing!
I'm so glad this resonated with you! 💛 Change is inevitable, but life becomes much more interesting when we learn to dance with it instead of resisting. Appreciate you taking the time to share your thoughts!
Refreshing perspective. Do you think that instability is better achieved from a place of stability? I.e. we explore uncomfortable places by centering ourselves on what's comfortable first and then using that as a base to return to when we've done something uncomfortable? Either way growth and progress comes from discomfort!
Thank you for your comment Kah.
That’s such a thoughtful question.
Yes, I agree with you - in an ideal world, building from a stable place is the best because having that safety net can help us take on more risks. But the sad part is, we don’t always have that luxury, and most of the time we’re building that internal safety on the go.
What kind of place of stability are you thinking?
I believe that as long as it’s internal, it works - because that’s something we can control, even when everything goes wrong. If our stability depends on external things, it becomes fragile - because when those things shift, so does our sense of safety.
For example, my health has its ups and downs - it’s unstable sometimes. But I’ve built an inner stability where I trust that I’ll be okay no matter what, and I trust myself to handle the curveballs. That belief makes everything so much easier, even when things feel like they are going south.
Yes I was referring to internal stability. I also agree that we build that internal stability on the go but that's where I think more intentionality is needed. It is possible (very lofty) but possible that through being very intentional about building it that we are able to let external events affect us less and therefore more comfortable with exploring new things? Very much a work in progress for most of us but something to think about I suppose?
For me, external events will effect me forever, because that’s how I connect with the world — but the trust I have with myself will help me to ground myself when those connections change. Whether it’s job, friends, love
Although I can see the opposite being true for someone else. But in my head, not being affected by external things feels more like a protective shield to avoid not being affected at all.
I am amazed by your perspective on events. You have really enlightened me on some subjects with your articles. Keep up the good work!